Wednesday, July 08, 2009

9 Year Anniversary

Nine years ago today Jay and I got married. Wonder how we met? It's a long story but I'll try to be brief.

I've know Jay almost my whole life. His dad and my mom were friends in high school. Jay's family started coming to our church, Wellford Baptist, when he was a teenager. He is the same age as my brother. Jay is three years older than me so he was a senior when I was a freshman. I've always know him. He was just Jay Byars to me back then. He played football and baseball, was real good looking, and always had a girlfriend.

In December of 1995 I was in my junior year at College of Charleston, and was at a friend's party. Someone behind me said, "Well, Amber Johnson." I turned and saw Jay and said, "Well, Jay Byars." And the next words out of my mouth could have been, "I'm going to marry you." I knew it in an instant, just like that. It couldn't be love at first sight since I've always know him but we saw each other for the first time at that moment.

We dated from there on out and continued dating through my graduation and Jay's two years of Georgia grad school.

Jay proposed sometime in June, 1999. He took me out to eat at the Charleston Grill. After dinner he handed me a photo album. As I flipped I saw photos of all our favorite places around town and our hometown. The last two photos were of the entrance to the Charleston Grill which had a card that said, "Tonight's Dinner" and then a photo of the table we were sitting at with a card that read, "The Proposal."

A waiter walked up to our table with a silver tray. The ring box sat in the middle. Jay got down on bended knee, took the box, opened it, and proposed. I said an immediate YES and the restaurant quartet played "Here Comes the Bride."

Some proposal? I know!

We got married a little over a year later. We had a beautiful, but very long, ceremony at Wellford Baptist and then a rocking reception at the Student Life Center Ballroom at USCS.

Here are a few photos from that memorable day!


My Dad, me and my MomJim (Jay's Dad), Jay and Amy (Jay's Mom)

Jim, Jay and Sarah (Jay's Step mom)

My Dad and I right before going down the isle

The ceremony

The recessional

Signing the marriage licence

Our official wedding photo as husband and wife

Our Party

Jay and I with our cake

Doesn't every girl dream of a bride doll that's a replica of herself and her dress? I know it's a little creepy and cool at the same time.

Leaving the reception

Ready to start our new life as husband and wife!

Monday, July 06, 2009

Next of Kin

Jay's sister Joni closed on her first home a couple weeks back and I know her family has been dying to see the pics so I asked her if she would like me to post them here. She said that was fine so those of you who usually tune in to see the girls will have to allow this slight interruption. We are very proud of Joni. She has a terrific job here in town and recently stumbled onto an amazing townhouse. With the help of a fabulous Realtor and her brother Jay who know mortgages like no other she was able to seal the deal! She's just about moved in and a recent housewarming gift from the family made things all the more homier!

Front

Back-Nice Garage and Parking pad

Kitchen

View front front door into foyer/den/eating area

View from eating area to front door. On either side of the door is the 1/2 bath and a linen closet. The master bedroom/bath suite is also on the first floor.

Upstairs is an amazing loft area. There are two bedrooms, as well as a full bath upstairs. Where Joni is standing looks down onto the front door/foyer area.

Now for the AFTER shots!
This is the kitchen area. The french doors lead to a small patio outside surrounded by yard.

Joni's Master Bedroom freshly painted with the help of her mom/Amy/Mia

This is the upstairs loft area which Joni has turned into a wonderful sitting area with comfy couches and her new housewarming gift...

A BRAND NEW TV! Joni is quite the avid movie, tv, Clemson football watcher and what could be more perfect than a new tube to watch them on? All her family chipped in to surprise her with the new television. The girls enjoyed watching Mary Poppins on there tonight when we went for a visit.


Yay Joni, we're so proud of your new home! :)

Sunday, July 05, 2009

Fourth Happenings

We had a great, long weekend together as a family. Friday Katie Jo had her last swimming lesson and then I got to go visit a friend and her sweet baby! We made a family trip to Costco which is always a treat and then Jay and I went out on a date to Olive Garden (thank you Gran for the gift card) and then to our friend's fourth party.

Saturday we ventured out to the beach. This is not normally a good idea on the fourth and especially when Saturday is actually the 4th of July but we scooted and were out there by 10:15. As we passed by the entrance they had already quit letting cars in to park! We had a terrific time and the girls played so well. I am constantly surprised at their joy in the sand, as well as, the water.

Saturday afternoon after naps we went out to the Riverfront Park for their festivities. They had FREE jump castles which was a HUGE hit with both the girls (and us). We ate, sweated, and had cotton candy. We left before the fireworks since everyone was hot and tired. Georgia has an unnatural fear of loud noises such as thunder so we didn't think flashing lights with booming attached would go over too well. We came home and did a few sparklers and shot off the usual Roman Candles. It was a great day!










Saturday, July 04, 2009

Jay and Katie Jo's Garden











Jay began a garden with Katie Jo back at the end of May. They worked together to plant the seeds in a little tray. That took off and within a week they were ready to be transplanted. Jay built a raised box to plant them in. He and Katie Jo transfered the growth into the garden. It's been amazing to watch how everything has taken off. We have green beans, butter beans, watermelon, cucumber, squash, and carrots growing. Jay also bought a Topsey Turvey to grow a tomato plant in and it has grown a great deal too. No tomatoes yet but hopefully soon! Katie Jo has enjoyed this special project with her Daddy.

Father's Day 2009

Jay had a pretty good Father's Day this year. The girls treated him to a bear card and a shovel and multi-use tool to add to our camping gear. This will be for the camping we'll do in the fall when it's not hotter than you know what! :) We went to church and then I had to go back to get my room ready for VBS which started on Monday. We ended the day with some swimming in the hood pool. It was relaxing which is always a nice way to spend a holiday!

Friday, July 03, 2009

Inheritance

*Update* I wrote this post a while back and held onto it for awhile. I wanted to reread it to make sure it sounded ok. Some of the beauty I claim to have created has fallen a little to the waist side but it's only been 100 degrees outside which doesn't bode well for yard work! :)

In July we will have been in our house for five years!

I looked for homes in this neighborhood for a year before we bought. When I taught kids were zoned from this neighborhood to the elementary school where I worked. I knew it was a great family neighborhood with lots of older homes, trees, and fairly sizable yards. I was convinced this was the only neighborhood I wanted to live in when we decided to move closer in to Summerville (we lived in N. Charleston at the time).

On a Wednesday night we rode through, as we had done countless times, and saw a For Sale By Owner sign in a yard. We called and inquired about coming by to see the house. The owner was very friendly and said we could set up a time but she'd had people by that day that were coming back for a second viewing and were probably going to make an offer (the house had been on the market for less than a day). We set up a time for the following day and when I gave her my name as contact info she said, "Amber Byars from Beech Hill Elementary?" "Uh yes," I said. "Amber this is Tina, Sean's mom!"

Sean had been a fourth grader in my class a couple of years before that and Tina had been my room mom. To say I was shocked was an understatement. What followed was nothing less than miraculous. We came the next day and got our tour. We were sold. We made a better offer and the house was ours. We got very close to their family between that first tour and the closing. Tina wasn't selling property she was selling blood, sweat, and tears. She had worked tirelessly on the inside and out of this home. What we inherited was a home and yard on a silver platter.

She overwhelmed me in those weeks with information about the ins and outs of the house and yard. She was an interior designer, a perfectionist, and it was a show place. The amount of work she had put into this home was incredible and it had been updated way past it's 1983 original!

I found out later they divorced. She knew when she sold this house that it was going to happen and they had decided to move together to live in the same zip code for the children. I often think back to how relieved she must have felt to sell this home to a couple that was going to appreciate it and fill it with love and children and laughter. That night when she heard my name I wonder if she knew then this house was going to be ours. I really don't think she could have sold it to a stranger and she told me several times how glad she was that someone she knew would be living in it.

For a long time it was Tina's house. I felt like we were taking care of it for her and it belonged to us but wasn't really ours. I still tell people in the neighborhood when I first meet them that we live in Tina's old house. She was that well known and loved in this neighborhood.

The house held on it's own for quite some time. That was good considering I was pregnant less than two months after moving in, sick for the first fourteen weeks, working for the rest, had Katie Jo, stayed home full time, got pregnant again when she was 18 months, was sick for 12 weeks, pregnant with number two while running after number one, giving birth to Georgia, chasing after a two year old while balancing a baby, and now I finally feel like I might be able to come up for air! I mean really, who has time to keep up a house and yard with all that. I got tired just revising that sentence! :) The yard too was pretty maintainable with no real tricky plants or flowers. Along the way I changed things inside the house but very carefully. I always felt like each time I changed something major it was taking a piece away from Tina. I know that sounds so bizarre but I took her efforts very seriously and didn't want to undo her hard work needlessly. Very slowly it became our house and almost all the rooms now have our stamp of living here. Except the red room which I will never paint over no matter how much Jay tries to sway me!

It's been a long dark winter for me. When spring came, more came to life than the nature around me. I finally found the energy and motivation to get er done like never before.

The yard has been my sanctuary for the past several weeks. I looked around and was sickened by the sight of overgrowth, deadness, and drab. I have worked very hard in reviving it and have enjoyed every moment. Jay has said several times he doesn't know who this woman is. He said he didn't think he'd ever seen me in the yard but he liked it. And he likes what I've done. I'm no where near finished but what has been completed fills me with joy and tonight as I looked around and took in the color and neatness I told Jay, "I think Tina would be proud!"

So here's a little tour of some beauty around the outside.


This trellis of confederate jasmine was here when we bought the house. It is so fragrant and sits at the corner between the garage and the back door sending it's sweet odor straight to your brain every time you walk by.






I'll have to be honest and say one of the things that sold me outside was how many gardenia's Tina had planted. That is my favorite flower and now they surround me all summer long. Here is the first bloom so far.These are the gardenia's at the side of our house. They will be filled up in a month or so. Afterward, they will have to be trimmed back. They're one of those things we let get away from us these last few years.

Our beautiful Magnolia tree in the back yard


I wasn't kidding when I said Tina took her home and yard seriously. She put together a binder of info and included a detailed map of her back, side, and front yard. I guess maybe I should start adding to it!



This was really long but I've always wanted to tell the story of our home. It's special and I appreciate the love that went into it before we bought it and the love we've added. I'm sure there are details I've left out and some of what I was trying to convey might have gotten lost in translation, but let me assure you I don't claim to be Martha Stewart. I'm just a wife and stay at home mom that is finally finding the time to do some justice to the beauty I inherited.